I think you might be interested in Mark Epstein's Open to Desire: The Truth About What the Buddha Taught. Based on this piece and another in which you mention how Buddhism in the Western world is far different from what's practiced and taught in Asia, I see similarities between your views and Epstein's book.
While what you assert is not incorrect, this concept has been refined over the years.
A woman does want to be desired, they don't want to be needed.
What turns most women off is what we call "sneaky fucker game". When a man acts as though he has no sexual interest, only to lie in wait like a cobra for his chance to strike. Women pick up on these incongruencies and rightfully so; it is dishonest.
Moreover, having the ability to desire a woman, but not need one is what women find attractive; the ability to walk away politely and without spite. This is what The Tao of Steve really gets at.
Not all women you find attractive will reciprocate that sentiment. Some may be on the fence, and knowing that you aren't desperate and dishonest is inherently attractive and may get you that girl (if only for the night).
I think you might be interested in Mark Epstein's Open to Desire: The Truth About What the Buddha Taught. Based on this piece and another in which you mention how Buddhism in the Western world is far different from what's practiced and taught in Asia, I see similarities between your views and Epstein's book.
While what you assert is not incorrect, this concept has been refined over the years.
A woman does want to be desired, they don't want to be needed.
What turns most women off is what we call "sneaky fucker game". When a man acts as though he has no sexual interest, only to lie in wait like a cobra for his chance to strike. Women pick up on these incongruencies and rightfully so; it is dishonest.
Moreover, having the ability to desire a woman, but not need one is what women find attractive; the ability to walk away politely and without spite. This is what The Tao of Steve really gets at.
Not all women you find attractive will reciprocate that sentiment. Some may be on the fence, and knowing that you aren't desperate and dishonest is inherently attractive and may get you that girl (if only for the night).